Problem: All normal people can speak their native language well enough, but when they write, many feel challenged by punctuation.
Punctuation errors are sometimes identified as "problems with grammar," but people usually speak grammatically and know (with little difficulty) how words work together to express meaning, or which word goes before or after another word. Listeners using the same language can understand what's being said. Everyone's speech gets tangled up sometimes, but if people keep talking, they usually figure out how to say what they mean.
Yet people who speak naturally and competently often lose confidence when writing, especially when punctuating. Why?
Background analysis: Speaking is more common and natural than writing. Our biological evolution as social creatures is inseparable from language, which humans have been speaking for hundreds of thousands of years. Even the simplest societies need language to function. Aside from food and shelter, language acquisition (parents or family teaching, children learning) may be the most essential requirement for human development. People who can master language have a better chance of surviving and reproducing. Evolution programs humans to speak with each other.
Writing, which developed only in the past few thousand years, is associated less with basic human nature and more with culture or civilization. Until the past few centuries most people never learned to read or write, or even saw much writing as part of their everyday existence. Even in advanced societies, writing was often reserved for priests, clerks, and scholars; most farmers, warriors, tradespeople, even rulers kept few records or accounts of their own. Like nearly everyone today, what they knew of the world they mostly learned from what other people told them or what they heard themselves saying.
Yet writing, like speech, is language, and punctuation is part of how we record and develop our spoken language in another medium. Nearly anyone who can speak can learn to read and write, but even today many people get by with little reading and writing. Therefore writing can feel specialized or elitist, especially since it is often associated with privileged classes. To people uncomfortable with writing, punctuation often appears like a secret code that you're expected to know but only a few people really understand—and you can be punished for violating their code!
Solution + attitude adjustment: Like all language, punctuation constantly evolves to meet changing needs. Instead of developing naturally among all speakers, though, the rules or guidelines of punctuation evolve among a comparatively limited class including educators and writers. (Despite such differences, all classes of people speak more or less the same language.)
Since most people are naturally stronger in spoken language than in writing and punctuation, one promising solution is to use our common sense of spoken language to make sense of punctuation.
With one notable exception, you can use your sense of the sound of language to hear punctuation. The benefit of this approach is that correct and inventive use of punctuation can enhance or refine the sound of your writing.
Put another way, punctuation and other mechanics cue your reader how to process the words on a page without the benefit of your voice.
As an analogy, punctuation accompanies words and sentences as musical notes accompany the lyrics to a song. Punctuation may affect rhythm, pitch, and meaning.
Most obvious or emphatic examples of punctuation as sound: the question mark (?) and the exclamation point (!).
A question mark cues the voice to rise in pitch:
An exclamation point signals emphasis, volume, speed, or urgency:
The sounds of other punctuation marks are less obvious but still perceptible:
A period voices a full stop at the end of a complete sentence:
A comma indicates a pause, sometimes with a breath or a shift in tone:
A semicolon indicates balance or parallel structure between the phrases or clauses it connects:
A colon comes to a full stop like a period, but also implies something to follow:
The one great EXCEPTION to the rule of hearing punctuation: the apostrophe, which gives no sound or aural signal.
For instance, the first three words of these two sentences have different meanings but sound exactly the same:
You cannot hear the difference in the sounds of the words. You can only see the difference. In normal out-loud speech, the context would appear quickly enough to avoid the problem. Since writing involves so much more cognitive labor, the apostrophe clarifies the meaning without generating confusion and frustration.
The apostrophe's exception to punctuation-as-sound proves the rule, because the apostrophe is the single form of punctuation that people have the most difficulty remembering. In a hurry, even your hyper-literate professor sometimes writes "you're" for "your."
In sum, we can more or less remember and master other forms of punctuation because we can hear them, but the apostrophe is the most troublesome form of punctuation simply because we cannot hear it.
Phase 1. Ignorance, fear, suspicion, shut-down, avoidance. Punctuation marks are like snakes—you can't tell the difference between them, and if you get close enough to learn, you might get bit, so just shut your mind and bang your way through any writing task in hopes that your classmates (maybe even your teacher) are as clueless and desperate as yourself.
Phase 2. Learn, observe, and practice rules or conventions of standard punctuation. (Convention = "rule or practice based on general consent, or accepted and upheld by society at large")
Phase 3. Know, respect, and generally practice or observe the rules but learn to bend or break them to meet new needs.
The most common risk of evolutionary thinking is assuming that evolution means change only, and thus that knowledge of rules or conventions isn't necessary because everything always changes. Think of evolution like transition: continuity + change; our present work mediating past and future. The new grows from the old.